"Never use the word 'relationship.' You can say 'marriage' or 'romance' or 'partnership' or 'living arrangement' or 'hubba hubba ding dong,' but the word 'relationship' is like the hissing of vipers. If the romance or marriage needs help, the answer almost always is Have More Fun. Drop your list of grievances and go ride a roller coaster. Take a brisk walk. Dance. Take a trip to Duluth. Read Dickens. There is almost no marital problem that can't be helped enormously by taking off your clothes. "